If you can only see

If you can only see

Skin: [theSkinnery] Cristy 1 (honey) RARE
Body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Hair: *Soonsiki~ Aries  –  FaMESHed

Top: Tee*fy Roxy Cropped T-Shirt –  Pink – Collabor88
Skirt: :FY: Zipped Ultra Mini  –  100 Block Event
Boots: _CandyDoll_ Eleanora Rosadas

Hand Piercings: .HollyWeird. Punkture -Mesh Hand Dermals- UNISEX
Collar: *MUKA* Collar Love

IDK – Pack 35_4 – 100 Block Event

Home Sweet Home

Chair: Apple Fall & An Lar Toile Chair (Cream)
Roses: Apple Fall Roses Box (Pink) – FaMESHed


If you read my blogs regularly you will know that I talk about balance often. I seem to never get the balance right. I throw myself into one thing head over heels focussing on a mission, and in the process neglecting other really important things and then that makes the whole business fall flat.

So what is this “business” I’m talking about? A few months ago I decided that the job that I had was not what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. So I decided to do a career change and apply for something totally different. It was something that I thought I would enjoy; something that was out of my comfort zone and also something I have never done before so, would be challenge.

Surprisingly, I did get the job and I have given it my 200%, working like a mad person. Getting up early, going to bed late, working, learning… getting this thing right. Everything else just fell to the side. Yet, doing all this didn’t make me perform better and I made mistakes as I became really nervous about being on top, and getting there really fast. After two months of relentless work I had to sit back and realize that I made a mistake. This is not what I thought it would be. I worked really hard, but this is just not my fit. My personal life at that point did not exist anymore and blogging, the thing that I really loved, has also gone off track. I didn’t feel creative and I was bone tired.


It was really hard to admit defeat. But I had a choice to make, should I choose the mentality “throw me to the wolves and I come back leading the pack?” or should I just stop. Admit this was a mistake and make yet another change. I decided to lead the wolves. Do better, be better. Until one week later (yes, only a week) I came home crying, having a meltdown. I had to admit defeat. I failed at this and I knew I would that is why I worked so hard to prove that I wouldn’t. I think that was one of the hardest things I have done in my life, admitting that I failed. The next day, I resigned and took two days off to sulk and lick my wounds.

The third day I replied for work again, but this time I was very selective and wanted to make sure that I choose the right one. I still didn’t know what kind of job I wanted, but I was pretty sure of what I didn’t want. It took me a month and a half and now I have been in my new role for two weeks, and somehow it just fits.

After the long story, finally the point. The other day I found something that made sense to me. Chris Brogan sent me a newsletter saying… there is no such thing as work-life balance… and my first thought was.. come onnn we all know there are, EVERYONE is talking about it. And then as I kept reading he said, your work life, home life, fun life must all be in ALIGNMENT or CONGRUENT. They all have to have the same goal. And there is no balance. Some you will spent more time with, some less. If you like your work life, you can align it with your home life, which will align with your fun life. All aspects of your life, needs to feed into each other. Get your alignment right to work toward a commitment with the right attitude. I learned the hard way that balance is only a circus trick. For now, I’m going to sit back and just enjoy my role at work, my home and friendships. I like this chapter of my life.


Skin: -Belleza- Nina Makeup 0
Hair:.EMBW. Sighma Hair
Eyes: {S0NG} :: Ghost // Black Eye
Teeth: [whatever] Teeth 2.0 – normal

Bolero: Nana – Caroline Circus Bolero – Young Spirit the Event
Top: { ViVi } Kasie – Basic Cotton Tee – Black
Pants: NYU – High Waist Shorts, Pink – FaMeshed
Boots: * .:: deeR ::. * MESH higher combat boots

Neck piercings: – .HoD. – E L E G Y Body Paint TANGO Applier & Chest Dermals
Facial Piercings: :HV: Alice [Metal]*Mesh*
Earrings and bracelets : Maxi Gossamer Voodoo Rocker
Goggles: .ARISE. Steampunk Glasses / Black Lenses – The Body Modification Expo
Headband: .{yumyums}. Creepy Cute Gacha – The Body Modification Expo
Necklace: .random.Matter. – Amory Necklace – Black – The Body Modification Expo
Make-up: .EMBW. Double under Eyeliners
Lips: .EMBW. GLOSSY Faded Lipsticks

Label Motion – Aida 6

Home sweet Home

Your love is like a shadow

I went shopping with a friend when I saw this outfit. When I said I was going to blog it, he said I was crazy, as it was a crazy outfit. It did crab me though, from all the awesome outfits at Z, this one caught my attention. Then I had to decide what I was going to do with it, especially because it’s not what I normally wear, but for some reason the picture then just came together. When it was done I was wondering how to describe it and when I don’t have my own words, I use a song.

In the end I did decide on Bonny Tyler’s Total Eclipse. I particularly liked the words “your love is like a shadow on me all the time” and then this morning on FB I read someone said, “we are getting divorce even though we love each other. When the divorce was in process I wrote her a letter to tell her about all the things I love about her and later she did the same, but on a scrap paper. I said, really? You could not even find a new piece of paper, and she said, I knew that is what you would see”.  So this image for me is the shadow of love that you will always carry with you, but the birds symbolises that it flies away if it’s not nurtured and also, sometimes no matter how much you long for a person, how much you love that person, you are just not willing to compromise and love is just not enough.

Total Eclipse


Skin: [theSkinnery] Chloe 1 (honey)
Hair: [RA] Kylie Hair – Browns Pack – The Summer of Love Fair – 27 June to 11 July

Dress: Zibska ~ Corvo
Heels: N-core EMBRACE “Pure Black” (Mesh) – FaMeshed

Make up: Zibska ~ Tali Liners

MINT! / {U.R.}

I have recently been at a cross road and I had no idea which way to go. I was unsure if the path I was on was the right one. I know I loved doing what I was doing, but just because you love something does not mean that I’m good at it or that I had any talent. Then someone out of the blue contacted me and it somehow showed me what to do, where I needed to be.

Do you have a plan?

Funnily enough a few days later I received an email from Chris Brogan asking if I needed a new plan. He was saying that he had a plan to improve his health and body. So to track progress he took pictures of himself and noticed that he did not improve over the past month, in fact the opposite. He thought that he had to make a new plan. He went into panic mode thinking he was failing again, but then he sat back and reviewed his original plan and realized what went wrong. He never followed the original plan. He only followed the bits he wanted to or had time to follow.

It’s so easy to fall back into old routines, the familiar, the easy. Sometimes you just need to regroup, refocus, work a little harder and move forward.

Do you have a plan?

Skin:  [the Skinnery] Sasha
Hair: TRUTH HAIR Storm –  browns

Top: MINT! Lexy #2 – Cosmopolitan Sale Room
Skirt: U:refined {U.R.} Defining Knee Length Skirt – Pink – Cosmopolitan Sale Room
Shoes: N-core CHLOE  – new at  FaMeshed

Necklace and Earings: : The Plastik [P]:-BME-Jewelry Set:// Teardrop Ver.2
Piercings – Chest: .Pekka. Rake Piercing (Chest) Unisex
Ring L: O.M.E.N – Ring of Passion – Black
Bracelets: Maxi Gossamer MG – Bangles – Sedona Valley Gypsy
Eye Make-up: Pink Acid Model 101 Eye Makeup

N-core / Pure / Minimade

Just a few days left of this round of Soho market guys! My dress is from Pure, clutch from Minimade and earrings from [7891.] all available at the Soho market.

N-core also created an exclusive for FaMESHed which opens tomorrow!  So looking forward to it.

N-Core / Pure / Minimade

Skin: [theSkinnery] Sasha – honey
Hair: “”D!va”” Hair “Sayaka2” (Brown diamond)

Dress: PURE – {Mesh= Ariel Dress – Black Elegant  The Soho Market
Shoes: N-core MAMBO (mesh) – FaMESHed  exclusive

Make-up: ee. (elegant epiffany)  Midnight
Necklace and rings: Izzie’s – Turquoise Jewelry Set
Earrings: [7891.] LeRose Earrings For Soho Market  The Soho Market
Clutch: :minimade: clutch

Cobblestone / {What Next} / {mon tissu}

Today I have tried my hand again at taking photos of furniture, but of course I wanted to be in the photo too, well for not a too selfish reason. The poses are from The Muse and are available at the Love Donna Flora Event. I’m only showing two of the five pack pose.

The two chairs, one with a blanket, one without and shelves on the wall come as a set. The chairs have a color hud, as does the blanket. This set is available at the Love Donna Flora event which is still running up to 11 August.

Cobblestone / what next / mon tissu

The side table with the two frames and lamp are available from {What Next} and compliments the Cobblestone Set wonderfully. The handbag is from {mon tissu}, so is my whole outfit. The dress is a line item and not new, but still beautiful 🙂

Cobblestone / what next / mon tissu

My hair is new from [taketomi] it is available now at The Chapter Four Event. Also a bargain as you get two hairstyles for the price of one!

Skin: Glam Affair – Summer
Hair: [taketomi]_Kiyomi+Rin_DarkBrowns – The Chapter Four Event

Dress: {mon tissu} Daydream Dress ~ Blue
Shoes: {mon tissu} Daley T-Strap Heels (Rigged) ~ Peach + Black

Bracelets: Maxi Gossamer – Earrings and Bracelets – Copacetic Tallulah / n-creation cold lava bracelet
Rings: Maxi Gossamer– Atlantis Moon Ring and LoveHeart Ring
Necklace: Maxi Gossamer – Necklace – Window To My Heart – FaMeshed

The Muse Poses – Donna  – Love Donna Flora Event

Chairs and Shelves: Cobblestone – Donna Mini Set – Love Donna Flora Event
Side Table with accessories: {what next} Bedside Tables Set & Wall Print
Handbag: {mon tissu} Sophmore Satchel ~ Floral

Turquoise Affair

Turquoise Affair
Yes, yes an affair. An affair with these striking pants from The Spirit Store and top from e! which plays with your assets with curve creating affects and shows off just the right amount of skin. Topped off with putting your best foot forward in these shoes from Redgrave. Both the pants and top comes in various colors, but I decided on the turquoise and white. Why you ask? Well because I’m having a turquoise affair. The top is currently available at Fameshed.
Turquoise Affair
And of course never forget the your hair and skin. I rocked the Cleo skin from Glam Affair with its Jamaican olivey tone and combined it with brown sun kissed waves from Analog Dog, perfect for that sexy summary look.
Turquoise Affair
Skin: Glam Affair – Cleo  Jamaica

Hair: Analog Dog – .b – honey – dark brown


Pants: Spirit Store – May 2 Pants

Top: e! Megan Top (Snow) – Fameshed

Shoes: Redgrave – Helen


Bracelets: ::LEO-NT::: Spirit of Spring

Ring: Maxi Gossamer – Atlantis Moon Rings


Ducknipple Sim


{Pose Maniacs}