So Lucky!

I have realized how lucky I am today. Today, they demolished the Christchurch Police station that was damaged beyond repair four years ago in an earthquake that flattened my city. It’s a major landmark in my city’s history. In it’s place, it’s planned for a hotel to be build. I work in the building next door to it and when I go to work tomorrow, there will just be a huge hole.

Why am I lucky though? I have lived through so many events that made the history books. I lived in South Africa through apartheid, I was in Cape Town when Nelson Mandela was released from prison, I was living in South Africa when he became president and 10 years after and now, I’m part of the rebuild of a wonderful city after a devastating earthquake.

Getting away

Skin: Lumae :: Adore – 4 – Peach // Darkling
Body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Hair: [^.^Ayashi^.^] Yin hair-Brown set

Dress: coldLogic dress – sheeran – peachy

Chest Piercings: .Pekka. Rake Piercing (Chest) Unisex
Make Up: #adored – eye extras and #adored – sorrow shadows – The Dark Style Fair 
Face Piercings: PUNCH / Dimple Piercing / Spikes
Septum Ring: PUNCH / Cross Septum
Necklace and earrings: Maxi Gossamer – Love Surrender
Bracelets: Zaara : Pratha silver cuff *turquoise*

Sari-Sari – Spring

Home Sweet Home


Never be afraid to try something new;
remember amateurs build the ark,
professionals build the Titanic

Someone who always inspire me to do something different to what I’m used to is Demien Sage Mortis, check out his blog here. He challenged me again and this is what I came up with.




Skin:  *YS&YS* Mina Skin – Skin Fair 2014
Hair: *booN LCA518 hair black/chocolate/purple

Pants and hoodie: ::Envious:: Paris – Whore Couture
Stockings:  C h a r y  Fades.
Boots: * .:: deeR ::. * MESH higher combat boots – Luck of the Irish Event

Nails: Beautiful Freak Nails – Black Celebration – Slink West
Face Tattoo: [Plastik]-Soul Ink-Soulless/Pollock
Piercings:  C h a r y . – Horizontal Body Horns (BLACK) – The Big Show
Piercings:  Puncture Anti-Eyebrow (Gemstone) Basics
Headpiece/arm bands/leg band: *{ SeVered GarDeN }* RASHIDA * FUR


Hair – *ARGRACE* ARATA – Blacks
Crown – .Pekka. Barbed wired crown – old metal
Ears – [MANDALA]Stretched EARS-OMIMI
Nose Chains – .ARISE. Double Nose Chain / Black
Hood – *chronokit* ModsCoat02 Black
Top – DOZZE – Denim Vest (Black)
Harness – ::ZED:: MESH Black Hex, Latex & Leather Harness Laced
Pants – LQMesh Suspender CargoPants UNISEX – REDGRAVE
Boots – [Gos] GTFO Boots in Black [M]-

Friendships and Expectations

I have so much on my heart today, but to get all the thoughts structured so it’s understandable might prove difficult.

Friendships and expectations. Do they go hand in hand? Can friendships exist without expectations? When you don’t expect anything from your friend, is that not just an acquaintance? There is a saying, if something is free, its not worth anything. So if there is no expectation, is there really a friendship?

There is not a lot of things I hate in life, I don’t bother poisoning myself, but I do hate the term “fake friends”. A friend is never fake. If the person does not live up to your expectation, it doesn’t make them fake, it makes them not your friend, even if you are under the misconception that they were. They may just have other priorities.

Friends and Expectations

A friend of mine has been going through a tough time and said only a handful of people stood by him during this time, so he may not return to SL as he doesn’t see the point. Does this make my friend a “fake friend” to the handful that stood by him, me included? Or are the other 100s who never Im’ed him, are they the “fake friends”? Or was my expectation of our friendship too high and his, too high of the other 100s.

Friendship is, I think, a constant toss up of knowing when to have expectations and when not.  I have been feeling unimportant to another friend and was about to complain about it, when I realized there are also people I was neglecting. I know friendship is not always about what you get back, but maybe I was expecting too much from this friendship and I was just as guilty of not giving as much to other friendships. Complaining would make me a hypocrite but it does mean I need to work harder on friendships that work harder for me, and let those go that don’t.  That almost sound selfish, but why put energy towards something and it’s not going anywhere, while other people put energy towards you and could become your greatest friend.

Regroup, refocus. One thing I have learned and keep learning is, a friend to all is a friend to none and peace begin where expectations end, so focus on those friendships that focus on you and have peace about the other quintessences who where never your friend anyway.

Friends and Expectations

Skin:  [the Skinnery] Runa – (honey)
Hair: TRUTH HAIR Delta –  browns

Jacket: .: LIKE DESIGN :. Rebekah Jacket With Tank Black White (I did not wear the tank)
Top: [BOOB-LiSH] Nettop – Mario Star
Pants: [Moyet]*High Waist Leggings** – Suicide Dollz Event
Shoes: _CandyDoll_ Newell Heels Black (FEET NOT INCLUDED)

Eyes: #adored – dream eyes – glacier  – Whore Couture Exclusive
Nails: #adored – fishnet polish hands/feet {slink avatar enhancement} – Whore Couture Exclusive
Bracelets: dl:: Emo Queen Perfect Hands
Earrings: ::DirtyMind:: The Plastique Earrings
Sunglasses: Izzie’s – Oversized Sunglasses (mesh)

ILAYA Street Model 4 and 5

Time is going by

The bad new is time flies
The good news is, you are the pilot
~Michael Altshuler

Time has caught up with me and I received a stern reminder that I need to blog The Whore Couture Fair. Woops! So here you go! The fair starts this Saturday, mark it in our calendar!

Time flies

Time flies

Skin:  [the Skinnery] Runa – (honey)
Hair: [LeLutka]-BOUFFANT hair/Dark Brunette

Dress: IAF Mercy Dress (Black) (With Appliers) – Whore Couture Exclusive
Tattoo: PMS – Steampunked Tattoo

Eyes: #adored – dream eyes – glacier  – Whore Couture Exclusive
Lips: #adored – sticky lips – Whore Couture Exclusive
Bracelets: dl:: Emo Queen Perfect Hands
Belly Chain: BabyDoll. Belly Chain / Barbie pk.1 – Whore Couture Exclusive

.Mien. Stroll 3 and 4

Coming Undone

Keep holding on
When my brain’s tickin’ like a bomb
Guess the black thoughts have come Again to get me
Sweet bitter words
Unlike nothing I have heard
Sing along mocking bird
You don’t affect me

That’s right
Deliverance of my heart
Please strike
Be deliberate

Coming Undone

Skin:  [the Skinnery] Runa – Bare face(honey)
Hair: Magika [03] Many

Top / Skirt / Tights: [Fuck-Lish] Ruffly
Pants: BabyDoll. Denim Shorty / Flag

Necklace and Bracelet: [MANDALA]pearl rain jewely set/silver/xstreet

Juxtapose – Jack or Jill 3.0 Hunt  – Male Path


“You never know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from.”
― Cormac McCarthyNo Country for Old Men

Final4 Finish5

Skin:  Glam Affair – Vera – America 07
Hair:  LNS Designs – Caprica – Soho Market

Top: Maimai – Vali Shirt – Indian Summer
Skirt: IAF Double Slit Pencil Skirt – With Appliers –Soho Market
Shoes: N-core Donna – FaMeshed

Belt: Earthstones – Sol Mix Belt
Face Piercings: Cute Poison – Agelast Piercing
Chest Piercings: .Pekka. Crushie Piercing, Rade Piercing
Tattoo: ..::TaTS // TaTToo Leg Melodrama Bird
Bracelet: Blushed – Red Eye Ring and Bracelet Gunmetal


I still press your letters to my lips
And cherish them in parts of me that savor every kiss
I couldn’t face a life without your lights
But all of that was ripped apart when you refused to fight


So save your breath, I will not care.
I think I made it very clear.
You couldn’t hate enough to love.
Is that supposed to be enough?
I only wish you weren’t my friend.
Then I could hurt you in the end.
I never claimed to be a saint…
Ooh, my own was banished long ago
It took the death of hope to let you go


Skin:  Glam Affair – Vera – America 07
Hair: SHI Hair – Blown – The Liaison Collective 

Top and Skirt: [Fuck-Lish]  Netskirt and Top with Lola Appliers
Stockings: SHI BAROQUE \ Heel Socks

Necklaces: Goth1cO:A My Ouija Necklace
Earrings: SHI Mermaid Earring

IAF Phone with Poses –  Soho Market


Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that.
Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”

― Martin Luther King Jr


Today I feel really noob and was not able to figure out how to wear a tattoo and a pants on my Cute Azz, so I’m only showing you half of the tattoo. Apologies for that! (Sorry Sand!). I still wanted to show you the tattoo by PMS which is Jack and Jill Hunt gift. This is a hunt really worth doing. There is a male and female path, so you guys can do it too! The hunt starts 01 February. I will post the website with the hints soon.


Then I would also like to show you this awesome bodysuit from  .:.CoCoChes.:. The jewelry and boots are included. Go have a look!


Skin:  Glam Affair – Vera – America 07
Hair: ::Exile::  Catch My Breath: Naturals

Bodysuit / necklace / bracelets / Boots:  .:.CoCoChes.:. Kiss Me Tender
Tattoo:  – PMS – Bulletproof Tattoo – Jack and Jill Hunt
Lips: Pink Acid Exotic Ethnic Lips – Burnt Cherry

It’s about the width, not the length.

I don’t want to get to the end of my life
and find that I lived just the length of it.
I want to have lived the width of it as well.
~Diane Ackerman

The past months, I have been catching myself complaining that I just don’t have enough hours in my day. That if I had more free time I would not be Jack of all Trades, Master of None, but actually be a master of something! Then I also realized that when I do have free time, I don’t use it productively, hence not mastering anything anyway. So maybe I must just change my attitude and not look at what still needs to be done as a negative, but as an opportunity to enjoy the ride.

So to this end, I have enrolled in another course to improve my Photoshop skills,  bought more English books to read and lean the language.  I planned three weekends away for the year. Invited more people to my friends lists, RL and SL. Applied for another job and re-looked at my exercise regime. Yoga here I come.. soon I’ll be able to reach my ears with my toes (not sure if I’ll break something) and I’m planning on being a very happy busy bee.. who cares about being a master! I’m going to live my life in the width and have fun along the way.

Who’s wine glass needs a top-up?

It's about the width, not the length


Skin:  Glam Affair – Vera – America 07
Hair: ^;^CaTwA^;^ Mesh Elsa Hair [5]

Dress/Bolero: *+S.F.+* Sweet “first date” Dress – Rose White –  The Hipster Fair
Stockings:  *REIGN.– Cozies- Mid Feet- White

Tattoo: +Half-Deer+ Faun Face Makeup (tintable) and B*FLY – Love Tattoo
Bracelet and Earrings:  MG – Bracelets and Earrings – Ritzy Shimmer Pearls

Mien. – {Halt} 5

The Difference

The minute you choose to do what you really want to do,
Its a different kind of life
~Buckminster Fuller


Skin:  Glam Affair – Vera – America 07
Hair: /Wasabi Pills/ Amandine Mesh Hair – Blonds Pack

Dress: Klepsydra  – Faye Dress –  Soho Market
Boots: [N*Monkey] ‘ Obludny Boots – The Hipster Fair

Tattoo: Corvus : Human Neck Tattoo
Bracelet: MIEL CHUM bracelet
Necklace: (Yummy) Ball Chain Necklace – Ankh
Lips: Pink Acid Matte Pastry Lips V2 –  Soho Market